Over a decade since we all became engrossed in the online and digital world of social media.
Do you feel like you are better connected? I don't mean by the ease at which you can superficially be connected to many people, but instead, do you feel closer to the people in your life?
Are there more people you consider close friends? Do you have more intimate connections to business colleagues? Are you more fulfilled with your social life? Is there a stronger feeling of camaraderie with clients, co-workers, vendors, etc?
Some will day yes. But many say no. Social media seemed like it was going to enhance our lives (and it has), but are we really experiencing the benefits of stronger connections?
I argue we are not suddenly more engaged with people than we were a decade ago. Maybe it is the same, but it appears for some we are worse off. Yes, we know when strangers ate a burrito for lunch, but while in restaurants I often see people not talking to the people at their table while they stare at their phones.
For ten years people have talked about how social media was made up of amazing tools, and that is true. But I have talked to audiences for the past decade about how to get back to the basics of human engagement. Early on the "social media gurus" mocked my position of not linking to everyone with a pulse as my being old fashion. Now those same "experts" are teaching people how to purge their social media contacts to eliminate those with whom they have no reason to be connected.
One of many things I have taught is the "Coffee, Meal, or Beer Rule". It simply states that you do not need to connect on LinkedIn or Facebook to people you have not had a real conversation with (and by real, I mean approximately 30 minutes or more). Granted, there are exceptions and reasons to link with some people you have not really met, but for the most part strangers just fill your feeds with crap. I argued with "experts" on how you should build up your numbers, only to now see them disrupting their own teachings to veer back to a more realistic approach for connecting online and in-person.
Don't get me wrong, I love social media and have used it as a valuable tool since it arrived on the scene. But do not think it has magic powers, or that giving Facebook $10 to boost your posts will have much of an impact. The key word is "social". If you can use these tools to engage people hand enhance conversations, then do it. But if you think likes, links, shares, and follows have any value by themselves, then you are lost.
I enjoy seeing the "gurus" of ten years ago adopt ideas that are in line with my "Coffee, Meal, or Beer Rule". as a lot of time and money has been wasted in this whole ideas that social media will sell things for the average person. The average person cannot look to a Kardashian business model, as that is simply not how the real world works.
When I began my career as a speaker ten years ago, I was warned that I could not make a living talking about "networking" from a traditional perspective. I was advised to jump on the social bandwagon as it was the "hot topic". Today my long-standing ideas are not only gaining ground, but they are what is working for people in a variety of industries.
We can embrace social media tools while at the same time disrupting the hype. If you want to be more successful and uncover unlimited opportunities, you need a "Choose People - Not Screens" mentality.
All opportunities come from people. There are no real shortcuts.
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Sunday, October 08, 2017
As we enter 4th quarter of 2017 my business numbers make me smile. Having worked as a speaker, facilitator, and master of ceremonies for 8 years, this is the year I want to replicate. I have worked with the most amazing clients, earned a great income, and have grown as a person.
Have A Great Day
I have always had the potential to get my business working as it is this year, but there have always been something holding me back. My work on "The Paradox of Potential" has oddly been part of the reason that I am accomplishing more this year. Asking so many questions of others about the gap between their potential and results, and seeking for their answers on how to bridge that gap, is leaving me inspired in countless ways.
This year I have operated with more intention. This has had a huge impact and has overlapped with my goal of making ages 50 -75 the best years of my life.
If someone asked me for advice on how to cultivate their own path across the gap, here are the 10 steps:
1. Take ownership of your life 2. Set clear goals 3. Work past the fear 4. Connect with people 5. Be aggressive with gratitude 6. Deliver on all projects 7. Accept that change happens 8. Ask for help and delegate 9. Try new things 10. Believe in yourselfIn seeking your own potential, you need to find your intention. If you need help, join the Potential Mastermind Group (so some other group) and get around people who are there to assist you in finding your best year ever.
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Sunday, October 01, 2017
"The Paradox of Potential"
There are many reasons that we are where we are in our personal and professional journeys. The past is the past, and we each had to navigate many good and bad experiences to get here today.
Finger pointing is a common pass time and it holds us back from moving closer to our own potential. In my discussions with people at all stages of their careers, the ones who are struggling the most are quick to place the blame on someone or something.
In my own career path I have had some highs and some lows. If I desire to take credit for when my hard work and ingenuity paid off, I also have to take ownership of the low times. While there were always other people involved in the ups and the downs, the once constant was me.
If you are not feeling positive about your current gap between your potential and your results, grab hold of everything that has ever happened to you and let go of the blame. Do not blame yourself, but also do not blame others. You are where you are and that is a great place to start.
You are the architect of everything that happens from this day forward. You do not need to ask for permission from anyone else to make changes. Take ownership, but with that you must take 100% of the responsibility.
Personally I have struggled with doing this, as I worry that if I fail all the fingers will be pointing at me. Yet once I learned that I must be in control if I want the levels of success that I desire, then I am willing to take my chances as the one in charge of my life.
Have A Great Day.